Chapatis with Pinto Bean Filling

(Makes 6 filled chapatis)
INGREDIENTS:
6 chapatis
1 1/2 c pinto beans, presoaked overnight
1 T ghee
1 t fresh ginger root, minced
a pinch of hing
1/4 t freshly ground black pepper
1/2 t ground roasted cumin
1/2 t ground roasted coriander seed
1/2 t ground roasted fenugreek seed
salt, as desired
fresh coriander leaves, chopped
thick yogurt, as desired (or use generous squeeze of lemon juice)
avocado chunks
celery, minced (opt)

PREPARATION:
1. Cook the pinto beans until soft (about 45 minutes). Mash.
2. In hot ghee, chaunce the ginger root, hing and black pepper. Then add ground cumin, coriander and fenugreek. Pour into mashed beans.
3. Add salt, coriander leaves and yogurt or lemon juice. Mix well.
4. Fill chapatis with this filling and offer to Krishna for breakfast or brunch or lunch time sandwich with chunks of avocado...

"Why I Wear a Sari"

A sari clad junior was stopped to consider, "Why do you wear a sari? 

These are some of the answers she came up with:

1. "I don't feel as comfortable in western clothes."
She said, "I've tried. I really have. I got a closet full of western clothes that well meaning people give to me. They must think I have none- "Poor thing". But the clothes are often immodest and so, while observing in public places the clothing worn by women today, in often very tight clothing with much of their body exposed, I feel I'd rather be stared at for wearing a sari!"

2. Saris are pretty and feminine.
She also noted that many western women in public places wear mostly somber and solid colors of black and grey. And very often they dress a lot like men. Saris, on the other hand, are usually more colorful and feminine. Even more cheerful looking.

3. Clothes are a part of our identity.
"If I want to dress modestly according to western standards, I still feel out of place because I don't care for looking like a Bohemian or a Christian, so the biggest reason for wearing a sari is when, after many, many years of following the path of devotional service, you totally identify yourself as a servant of Guru and Krishna... And wearing a sari pleases them."

4. Saris are worn in the spiritual world. AND they cover their heads!
 "My latest inspiration is from Sri Vrndavan Mahimamrta, in which author Srila Prabodhananda Sarasvati Thakura describes a maidservant of Srimati Radhika:

"A cluster of jewels hangs from the end of her enchanting braid. She repeatedly covers her breasts and her head with her cloth..." Sataka 10.91

A similar example, although that of a cowherd, is the example of Gopa Kumara from Brhad Bhagavatamrta. In Vaikuntha, the residents there asked him to dress more like them. But Gopa stick to his cowherd dress due to his great attachment for his worshipable deity, Madana Gopal. He only identified with Him.

Of course, living in America, there still are other challenges that may tempt us to don the western dress, but mostly for convenience. Take for example, airports. Especially during a busy season, you just might miss your flight after getting stopped in an airport and frisked three different times behind a screen before being allowed to board a plane! True story. Or you might create a panic when you tell a store clerk you need to leave your shopping cart full of unattended packages for a few minutes because you forgot your wallet. Or let's say you want to go on sankirtana with other devotees rather than always alone. Many devotees prefer being undercover wearing western clothing, so you may not be a welcome sight when you accompany them. 

Yes, sari wearing can sometimes make one feel like the last of the Mohicans.

But overall, sari wearing is a personal statement for loving Krishna, and you're helping to bring the world's greatest fashion statement to the west!
 Rambhoru mataji (ACBSP) reasons can be found here which include:

A sari pleases Srila Prabhupada. He also specified his women followers to use the sari-wrap worn by Brahmins for temple service.

Srila Prabhupada mentions in the Caitanya Caritamrta that devotees can wear the attire of the materialists for preaching Krsna consciousness, especially while distributing books. However, Srila Prabhupada himself, although preaching, seldom used non-devotional dress 

Wife Material

Updated July 2024

There are young men who do much austerity serving a guru as a brahmacari, and then they get married and find out the wife doesn't cook, the home is always a mess and she is of no help, but rather like a competitor for work and devotional service outside the home. "I might as well be single", one was saying, "We got along much better". 

A valid point when there are fights about the clutter and eating out every day instead of healthy, home cooked meals. And with the current attitude that women must be equals to men in all respects, with no question of traditional gender roles for women existing in a marital relationship (while men are still expected to be traditional husbands!), why not live apart as a boyfriend and girlfriend rather than give each other lifelong heartache? 

Since the days of yore, all classes of men were able to find single women for female companionship or to engage them in various services. We’ve all heard of kings who kept harems and or a troupe of dancing girls as well as queens with a supply of maidservants. Also five thousand years ago in sastra there is the example of the prostitutes of Dwaraka whom were described as providing an important service for the upkeep of society. And of course, we know that Lord Krishna danced with his transcendental girlfriends, the gopis, before he settled down and married kings’ daughters. For any further interaction between men and women of the higher classes at least, marriage was compulsory.

 So what is it that makes being a wife different from being a girlfriend? What does being a wife entail? And how on earth can a man today, who wishes for a traditional marital relationship, even find her?

 In the book written for women of high class aspirations, Fascinating Womanhood by Helen B. Andelin, there are two characters discussed regarding what makes wife material.  According to Andelin, the lives of two women studied, Agnes and Dora, represent two sides that, if brought together, represent the ideal woman who is dutiful- but also charming. Or as Andelin put it: "Angelic" and "Human". Presented here are both of them also, but instead they are representing the dutiful wife and the charming girlfriend, respectively.

DUTIFUL AGNES
In the classic novel "David Copperfield" by Charles Dickens, the original source of these characters drawn by and quoted about by Mrs. Andelin as some of her examples of the womanly ideal, Agnes is expert at household affairs in the service of her doting father, a widower, and she acted as both friend and confidante to David Copperfield while growing up in the same community.

Apparently, Agnes was highly disciplined and also reserved. When she shared the news with David, for example, that a despicable character named Uriah Heap was trying to win her hand in marriage by serving her father, she started to shed tears. David was surprised because she was usually very strong minded. And, yes, she pulled herself together soon after the sudden outburst.

In reality, she was demonstrating her devotion to David. She was undoubtedly attached to him, her childhood friend, and she proved her unwavering love because she had a long wait during the rest of the novel before he came to realize that she was more than just a friend and finally married her.

According to Srimad Bhagavatam, in narrating the story of the devoted Devahuti, daughter of King Svayambhuva Manu, Agnes' qualities of sense control, a service mood and love for her father and devotion to David qualified her as wife material: "O Vidura, Devahuti served her husband with intimacy and great respect, with control of the senses, with love and with sweet words." (SB 3.23.3)

On a side note, it seems that Agnes was from a lower classe, since she was allowed to associate with David with no marital arrangement by her parents beforehand. And unfortunately for her, it is not recommended a man marry a woman from his own village. Because of familiarity while growing up together, the man may come to view the young woman as more like a sister rather than a future wife. Nonetheless, she still was fortunate that her steadfast devotion to David never faltered. 

But in the meantime, David felt something was lacking. David said to himself, “Agnes, ever my guide and best support. If you had been more mindful of yourself, and less of me, when we grew up together, I think my heedless fancy would never have wandered from you.”

Enter. Dora.

CHARMING DORA
Upon meeting Dora, David said to himself. "All was over in a moment. I had fulfilled my destiny. I was a captive and a slave. I loved Dora Spenlow to distraction! She was more than human to me. She was a Fairy, a Sylph, I don't know what she was—anything that no one ever saw, and everything that everybody ever wanted. I was swallowed up in an abyss of love in an instant. There was no pausing on the brink; no looking down, or looking back; I was gone, headlong, before I had sense to say a word to her...

"The idea of...doing anything in the way of action, in that state of love, was a little too ridiculous. I could only sit down before my fire, biting the key of my carpet–bag, and think of the captivating, girlish, bright–eyed lovely Dora. What a form she had, what a face she had, what a graceful, variable, enchanting manner!"

Apparently, David was more interested in sense gratification than a life companion. But not knowing the difference, he married Dora. 

But what a mistake! He soon finds out she can neither cook nor keep house nor have any ability to understand him or sympathize with his daily life. She is so self absorbed, poorly prepared for marital life and emotionally needy that, while he is away on a journey, she takes ill and suddenly dies.

David had to learn the hard way that Dora, although from a well-to-do family, was basically useless as far as managing domestic affairs. 

Bhagavan : These girls...can do nothing. They can’t cook, they can’t clean, they can’t sew.
Prabhupäda: All rubbish... they are all rubbish. Therefore they are simply used for sex satisfaction... - morning walk, 5/27/74, Rome

And according to Srimad Bhagavatam 3.14.33, this consideration placed his wife on the level of a prostitute rather than a wedded wife. Thus Dora would have been better as a girlfriend for David rather than someone to marry.

DUTIFUL AND BEAUTIFUL
Ann was capable and Dora feminine. Andelin argues that wife material must be a balance of the two as both dutiful but also beautiful or charming..

Dora is the "girly girl" who doesn't even know how to peel a potato. And with all the propaganda for female independence we now have an upsurge of women who are more like "Agnes to the extreme". Capable but also tough, self-supporting ...even crude and rude, having no submissive, simple, endearing innocence that Dora had displayed- to her credit.*

Margaret D. Nadauld reminisced that “The world has enough women who are tough; we need women who are tender. There are enough women who are coarse; we need women who are kind. There are enough women who are rude; we need women who are refined. We have enough women of fame and fortune; we need more women of faith. We have enough greed; we need goodness. We have enough vanity; we need virtue. We have enough popularity; we need purity.” 

Such coarser types are more akin to becoming male buddies rather than girlfriends. "Let him get his own damn sandwich", they say. They prefer an office meeting than a home. They'd rather fly on a business trip than take care of children. They much prefer being on a stage noticed in some way or in public places working alongside or entertaining men or doing some big humanitarian work broadcast in the news. They thrive on attention and competition and wilt into some kind of neuroses if their needs are not met. Obviously, traditional marriage and family life are not for them. 

But that's OK! It's only when such women marry is when trouble brews because they don't understand Krishna's arrangement for women to serve a husband so that they may progress in spiritual life, a life of self sacrifice rather than personal sense gratification. Following the speculative path of equal rights goes against nature and thus bumbles the whole affair. Well, at least honest people will realize that.

Again, Andelin  argued that a wife should be a blend of wife and girlfriend. Dutiful but girly and attractive (rather than burly and bitter) is the ideal. 

But to a point.

It makes sense Andelin pursued sense gratification even after retirement, since she adhered to a Christian worldview.  But Vedic standards regard marital life as a steppingstone to renunciation. It is not the goal of life. Nature works this way, too. As the wife’s skin sags, Andelin and company did something about it- hair dye, makeup, attractive clothing etc-

 to keep the husband interested in their temporal relationship, when actually it’s nature’s sign to become more detached from household life in order to surrender fully to the will of the Lord. 

WHAT THE LIFE OF A WIFE ENTAILS 

Getting to that point, a good wife is supposed to be helpful to a man: "In the Vedic conception the wife is considered as dharma-patni, religious wife...(She) helps the husband in the matter of his religious life. That is found in, still in Hindu family: the man is worshiping the Deity and the woman is helping arrange the paraphernalia for Deity worship, helping the husband so that he can immediately come into the Deity room and begin worshiping comfortably. So woman should always be engaged to assist the man in every respect in his religious life, in his social life, in his family life. That is real benefit of conjugal life."

It all boils down to two things: keeping the husband healthy and peaceful.

That said, to be a wife is not an easy thing; there is much sacrifice and austerity involved to give the husband such freedom to shine. A man with a good wife taking care of business at home can do the work of two or three men. Prabhupada wrote: "You prefer to be free, but a devoted wife is as good as freedom. " 

 This is supported further in SB 3.14.19 purport: "O respectful one, a wife is so helpful that she is called the better half of a man’s body because of her sharing in all auspicious activities. A man can move without anxiety entrusting all responsibilities to his wife." 

 Young women should be taught these things in order to know where one stands: "Do you want to be a man’s wife or a girlfriend (or his burly buddy)? His helper or sense object (or a competitor)?” 

This is real freedom of choice for women, to know the difference. 

And, of course, for a man wishing to find a good wife, it is also wise to know what to look for.

WHERE TO FIND HER?

Not an easy job in Kali Yuga. One piece of advice is that to find an intellectual, you visit a library instead of the bar. To find a sadhu you visit holy places…And so on.  Similarly, a wife may be found dutifully serving her parents, cleaning up after a community get together, cooking for the deities and caring for children. Girls on a stage are best avoided. Also the girly girl who knows nothing but what she’s wearing for the day or who is looking at her. As for the  women who dress more like men than women, are harsh in speech, competitive and fiercely independent…you’re  probably not attracted anyway.

But the best advice is- Krishna knows what you need to make spiritual advancement. Trust in the Lord that, if needed, you’ll get the wife just suitable for that purpose. In that sense, it doesn’t really matter who you end up with; one can be spiritually single but married for life because Krishna consciousness is so absorbing and self fulfilling, ultimately you won’t care. 

*ADDENDUM: Andelin wrote about the ideal wife as being a well balanced combination of both Agnes and Dora. Not overly capable so that the man does not feel unneeded, and she should be attractive, too, for the pleasure of her husband. This entails femininity. Further discussions on this may be found here:
Getting in Touch with the Feminine Side
The Better Half

Chickpeas with Potatoes

CHICKPEAS WITH POTATOES

INGREDIENTS:

• About 1/2 c soaked chickpeas
• 1 stick of celery, finely chopped
• 2-3 medium potatoes, peeled and chopped
• thick yogurt or sour cream
• 1 t ginger root, minced
• a pinch of hing
• 1 t roasted ground cumin
• 1 t coriander powder
• 1/4 t ground black pepper
• salt, as desired
• 2-3 T ghee

PREPARATION:

1. Bring the chickpeas to a boil in salted water, cover and then simmer about 30 minutes. Drain and set aside.
2. Heat the ghee then add ginger. Stir until lightly browning. Add hing, coriander powder, black pepper and the potatoes. Stir a little to coat the potatoes with ghee and spices. Then lower the heat and cover. Let simmer until potatoes are tender.
3. Add the celery to the potatoes. Stir a bit and then turn off the heat.
4. Stir in the cooked chickpeas, roasted ground cumin, thick yogurt. Add salt.
5. This makes a good breakfast dish. Offer to Krishna with freshly buttered chapatis or parathas or with pancakes and syrup or a bowl of oatmeal....

FOR A NIGHTSHADE FREE VARIATION use white sweet potato to replace the potato with a small pinch of cinnamon or garam masala (opt). Or try steamed chunks of taro root. Steam by halves first, without touching the inside, to safely remove the peel.

Fresh vs Factory Food

It's been found that allergies have more to do with how foods are being made vs the food themselves. For example, bread flour sold from the grocery store shelf contains insect and rodent filth from the factory production (And if you are attached to chocolate, you may not want to learn what THAT contains). We can avoid this  in our bhoga offerings, however, by homemade ingredients.

FRESHLY GROUND FLOUR. One example is using a mill to grind wheat berries for a more wholesome flour. More is written at this post:  Grind Your Own.



HERBS AND SPICES AND AYURVEDIC REMEDIES
Herbs and spices are often sitting on shelves for long periods, too. Check out Grind Your Own Part II for an alternative. This is how they lose not only flavor but also potency. So if there is any doubt about the effectiveness of an Ayurvedic remedy, for example, be sure to check the freshness of a product. Even a day old can greatly alter effectiveness, so the fresher the remedies, the better.

FRESH TURMERIC In other words, try using fresh turmeric, instead of the stuff powdered long ago and bought in the food store. And it isn't hard to use. If you already use fresh ginger root, it can be prepared for use in the same way.



Chaunced or simply boiled with rice, there is an immediate sense of how much tastier freshly prepared items can be.

And in those recipes where only powdered turmeric will do, and you have a sunny window, it only takes a day or so to dry out some minced turmeric before easily grinding it into a powder.

GARAM MASALA

Far, far superior to any store bought garam masala getting stale on a grocer's shelf, is to collect the ingredients yourself and grind your own in smaller quantities, so that it will be as fresh as possible. This goes for all the other packaged seasoning combinations like curry powder, chaat masala and sambar powder. 

RAISINS, AMCHUR, POWDERED GINGER AND CHILI POWDER
One may be blessed with a very sunny climate or at least a very sunny windowsill in the summer season. All kinds of experiments can be made. Be amazed by leaving some wilted but still good grapes on a tray in the hot sun there. In just a few days you will have raisins! Or how about that unripe mango you accidentally cut open? Continue to cut it into small pieces and leave it in the sun for a few days, then grind the dried pieces and you will have freshly made amchur. Minced pieces of ginger spread out in the same spot dry very out in a day and grind easily to ginger powder, free from any factory filth. Another thing people keep on the shelf for long periods is chili powder which instead can be ground up easily, at a moments notice, from chilies left drying on strings hanging in one's kitchen.

Using our good intelligence, we can discover more and more how Krishna designed things in such a way that we do not have to depend on factories for our food.

TO BE CONTINUED

'Chickpea of the Sea'

(Makes enough filling for 6 chapatis)
INGREDIENTS:

• 2 1/2 soaked, boiled and drained chickpeas
• 2 T ghee
• 1 t mustard seeds
• 1/4 t yellow hing
• 1/2 t black pepper
• 1/2 c chopped celery
• 1-2 avocadoes, mashed
• juice from 1/2 a lime or lemon (at least 1 T)
• sour cream, cream cheese or thick yogurt, as desired
• a sprinkling of dried dill weed
• a sprinkling of Italian seasoning
• salt

PREPARATION:

1. Mash the cooked chickpeas.
2. In hot ghee chaunce the mustard seeds, hing and black pepper and then pour chaunce into mashed chickpeas.
3. Add the remaining ingredients (Use 1 teaspoon of salt for every 4 cups of finished chickpea and avocado preparation) Stir until well combined.

Serve on chapatis.

Three Birds

Japa help, by remembering three birds from sastra: the chakora, the chataka and the chakravakra

THE CHAKORA
Wikipedia: "The chukar sometimes symbolizes intense, an often unrequited, love. It is said to be in love with the moon and to gaze at it constantly."

"The family of Mahārāja Nanda is just like an ocean of milk, wherein Lord Kṛṣṇa has arisen like the full moon to illuminate the entire universe. The eyes of the residents of Vraja are like cakora birds that continuously drink the nectar of His bodily luster and thus live peacefully. CC Antya 19.36

The chakora bird fixes fully its gaze upon the moon, not giving attention to anything else. Similarly, japa is darshan. The holy name is Krsna. The holy name is a person. Krsna is present, so we don’t want to be absent. It's our daily date with Krishna.

Still, still with Thee, when purple morning breaketh,

When the bird waketh, and the shadows flee;

Fairer than morning, lovelier than daylight,

Dawns the sweet consciousness, I am with Thee.

Alone with Thee, amid the mystic shadows,

The solemn hush of nature newly born;

Alone with Thee in breathless adoration,

In the calm dew and freshness of the morn.

As in the dawning o’er the waveless ocean

The image of the morning star doth rest,

So in the stillness Thou beholdest only

Thine image in the waters of my breast.

--Harriet Beecher Stowe

 "A pure devotee knows that when he chants the transcendental name Krsna, Sri Krsna, is present as transcendental sound. He therefore chants with full respect and veneration." (Adi Lila 2.11)

THE CHATAKA

Prabhupada: The example is given, these cataka birds, they want water from the cloud and they will never come down to take water... Similarly, devotees will simply depend on Krsna... Example is given that sometimes the cloud, instead of giving water, gives thunderbolt. Still, they will not take water from down. That is a cataka. Although it is... Sometimes they are punished—instead of water, they are given thunderbolt—but still, they will not take any (other water). -morning walk, Honolulu, 10/10/75

Prabhupada: The bird flies in the, near the cloud in expectation of water, and they are not afraid of thunder. That is called cataka. That example is given by Rupa Gosvami. The cataka does not take water from ground. They will take water when it falls from the cloud. So in the beginning of every cloud there is thunder. So this bird, because they expecting water from the cloud, the cloud is giving him thunder, but still he does not, will not take water from ground. -morning walk, 7/6/75, Chicago

"I know no one but Krishna as my Lord, and He shall remain so even if He handles me roughly by His embrace or makes me brokenhearted by not being present before me. He is completely free to do anything and everything, for He is always my worshipful Lord unconditionally." -Siksastaka 8

 “Only by the wonderful mercy of the Lord, who is a nectar ocean of wonderful pastimes, is the wonderful sweetness of chanting the holy name manifest. It is not manifest by one’s own efforts.” --Sri Brhad Bhagavatamrtam

The chakora above has been described in a similar way also:

"One particle of that transcendental, blissful nectar is the life and soul of the ear, which is like a chakora bird that lives in hope of tasting that nectar. Sometimes, by good fortune, the bird can taste it, but at other times he unfortunately cannot and therefore almost dies of thirst."- CC Antya 17.45

THE CHAKRAVAKRA

Sri Brhad Bhagavatamrta describes the chakravakra bird calling out to its beloved during nocturnal separation. Similarly, japa is calling out to Radha and Krishna.

In the Mahäbhärata, Krishna says, "When I was away from Draupadi, she cried with the words, 'He govinda!' This call for Me has put Me in her debt, and that indebtedness is gradually increasing in My heart!" This statement by Krishna gives evidence of how one can please the Supreme Lord simply by addressing Him, "He krsna! He govinda!"-NOD17

"The chanting is a spiritual call for the Lord and His energy, to give protection to the conditioned soul. This chanting is exactly like the genuine cry of a child for its mother's presence. Mother Harä helps the devotee achieve the Lord Father's grace, and the Lord reveals Himself to the devotee who chants this mantra sincerely." - Srila Prabhupada

"The gopīs who joined Kṛṣṇa's pastimes within this material world were coming from the status of ordinary human beings. If they had been bound by fruitive action, they were fully freed from the reaction of karma by constant meditation on Kṛṣṇa. Their severe painful yearnings caused by their not being able to see Kṛṣṇa freed them from all sinful reactions, and their ecstasy of transcendental love for Kṛṣṇa in His absence was transcendental to all their reactions of material pious activities." -Krishna book 29

home remedies II

SINUS HEADACHE
1. Mix 1 t honey with 1 t roasted ground cumin and take morning and evening.



2. Bring a pan of water to a boil. Turn off the heat and add a few drops of peppermint oil or eucalyptus oil. Inhale the steam


3. Boil a cup of water and add 1 t grated fresh ginger root, 1/4 t turmeric and a pinch of black pepper. Steep ten minutes and strain. Stir in 1 t honey and the juice of 1/2 of a lime.

4. Keep hydrated and get some rest.

ITCHY EYES
Soak cotton balls in rose water to soothe. Make sure to read the label, though, for natural ingredients without additives.


BURNS
Cooking and burns go together. It's part of the job. For quicker healing, dab on the gel from the inside of a piece of an aloe vera plant.  Very soothing. Keep the plant part in the fridge to cut a bit off and reapply as needed.



TO BE CONTINUED

Mango Lassi

INGREDIENTS:

• Mango, peel and pit removed
• 6-8 T sugar
• 2 c water
• 2 c yogurt or buttermilk
• Pinches of ginger powder (optional)

PREPARATION:

1. Boil sugar in 1 cup of water until dissolved. Cool
2. Blend mango pulp with remaining water.
3. Add remaining ingredients and blend well.
4. Offer to Krishna with breakfast, lunch or anytime snack

Tamarind Water

4 cups water
1/2 cup sugar
1 teaspoon tamarind paste

1. Boil 1 cup water and the sugar until sugar dissolves
2. Stir in tamarind until dissolved
3. Cool. Then stir in remaining water before offering to Krishna.

Tulasi Devi's Presence

Excerpt from an old story book with a story titled: The Old Brown House about a widow who was befriended by a little girl who one day announced she was moving away (I wouldn't be surprised if this was the fodder that inspired "Rotten Island" by William Steig):

"'Well, I will tell you; we are going to move away. I declare, I think it's too bad to leave all the girls just as I began to like them, and you, too, Aunt Ruth. I don't want to go one bit;" tears rolling down her face.

"'Going away, my little girl going off?' said Aunt Ruth seriously.

"'Yes; and mamma said we couldn't move Chip, it would be such a bother, so I have given poor birdie away to Allie Smith;' tears flowing afresh. 'I let Amy Wells have my kitten, but I haven't found a place for my poor little rose. See,' said Bessie, going to the table and removing the wrapper from her parcel, 'isn't it a beauty? You will keep it to remember me by, and take care of it always, won't you, Aunt Ruth?'

"The little blossoms were out in full, and seemed to smile a benediction upon the old woman."

This story is similar to what it is like to suddenly have a tulasi plant in your home when the neighbors must travel for some time. Her presence touches every aspect of the life for those who are so fortunate to be chosen for her care. And not only by discovering her needs and how to keep her happy for Krishna's service, it's simply a joy just to see her every day!  Tulasi devi transforms one's consciousness and has a good effect on the life and surroundings of everyone she is near, as well as providing her leaves and flowers to offer Lord Krishna. Tulasi is so very dear to Him. Her holy association is such that we soon realize that Tulasi only wants to serve, and we pray that her service mood rub off on us.. Tulasi Maharani ki jaya!
 
It is similar to how the above story continued:

"Then the shadows seemed to come back to the inmate of the old house; but as her glance fell upon the little flower, she began clearing a place for it to stand in the warmest corner...

"Bringing a little pine stand, she carefully placed the plant upon it. In doing so, she chanced to glance at the window. 'Bless me! it never looked quite so dirty before;' and Aunt Ruth moved with new life, as she cleansed, rinsed, and polished the glass.

"But this being done, the old muslin curtain seemed dingier than common, shading the clear glass; so it was taken down, and another finer one unpacked from a drawer and put in its place.

"The next morning, as she ate her lonely breakfast, she placed her chair to face the window and the rose. The sun was shining, and as the rays streamed across the room to the opposite wall, she marked the cobwebs. That day the cobwebs were swept down, the other window washed, and the floor cleaned. The old house had not been so neat and cheery for many years.

"And did Bessie Lane ever come again? Yes, when June smiled upon the earth, the childish figure once more paused at the gate, but the blue eyes gazed bewildered around. 'This isn't the place. Aunt Ruth must have moved away.' Well might she think so; the house was neatly painted, the yard fence repaired, and up and down the path all sorts of flowers were blooming.

"Just then Bessie descried a neatly dressed old lady tying up some vines. 'Can you tell me where Aunt Ruth Jones has gone that used to'—Bessie stopped, and with one bound sprang into the woman's arms, for it was Aunt Ruth herself.

"'It is so beautiful here! how did it all happen?' cried the delighted child. Aunt Ruth smiled brightly, and, taking Bessie by the hand, passed into the neat, cheerful room, and up to the south window, where the carefully tended rose was putting forth beauty and fragrance."


LATER NOTE: What I also like about this story is a reminder of the nature of devotional service as ever increasing. One can start very simply, for example, by offering food to a picture of the Lord and associates. Gradually, over time while doing the offering steadily, a taste awakens to do this service nicely and various details on how to do it come up such as setting up an altar and learning mantras and how to offer the food nicely and keeping everything very clean and punctual, etc.

Serving Milk with Salty Preparations

A controversial topic, but if you’ve been wondering about the Ayurvedic teaching to not put salt in fresh milk, and whether it is also applicable to serving fresh milk with a meal that includes salty preparations, here is food for thought found at Quora in response to the question:  Can we consume milk with salty food?


According to Ayurvedic principle "Salt in milk" (Ksheeren lavanam) do not go together. But it is applicable to milk in salty preparations as well. As it has been mentioned in "Astanga Sangraha" that the reaction may not be immediate, so it will be wrong to say that such combination have been used by people without any ill effects. The ill effect or harmful effect is always there but it may not manifest into a disease immediately. It's like we see so many people drinking alcohol everyday but not all of them get diseases. This does not means that alcohol is harmless for the body. On the other hand we see many people who don't drink alcohol or don't smoke etc. but they get serious diseases. Maybe they take "milk with salt or milk in salty preparations" everyday or three times a day.
It's also explained in Ayurveda that by regular practice, even some wrong combinations become less harmful. This is because the body adapts to or gets used to that kind of food. Usually people with strong immunity, strong digestion and those who cleanse the system regularly are less effected. Please note the words "less harmful" and "less effected" I have used above. This means that there is definitely an harmful effect on the body when we take "milk and salt or salty preparations" together. The effect can vary in each individual depending on certain factors like immunity, age, state of ojas, strength of Jatharagni etc

Since Ayurveda only mentions milk and salt and not milk products such as curdled cheese, yoghurt, butter etc. and salt to be incompatible we have to analyze the difference between milk and e.g. yoghurt to find out the possible factors which make this substances compatible or incompatible.
The difference of yoghurt and milk in regards to metabolism is, that milk has to be curdled by the body and the milk fat which tends to coagulate has to become emulsified** by the bile*** liquid. Yoghurt is already curdled by the lactic acid produced by the yoghurt bacteria and the fat of yoghurt doesn't tend to coagulate because of the specific structure of processed milk products.

Milk contains a specific protein-calcium compound called calcium caseinate which is responsible for the curdling effect of milk as soon as the calcium bond is broken by the interaction of acids.
If salt which is a sodium salt is added to milk it could interfere with the calcium ions of the calcium-caseinate and thus impede with the curdling, emulsification and / or albumin metabolism of the milk.
If salt is added to any other milk product that would be no problem since the milk doesn't have to be curdled and is already pre emulsified.

Another possible reason is the sweet taste of milk. Generally sweet things are not mixed with salt, which again would not be a problem for yoghurt which does not possess the sweet characteristics of milk.

That is also the reason why milk is recommended to be served hot. The colder the milk is, the more difficult it is for the bile liquid to emulsify the milk. Drinking cold milk is like trying to wash greasy hands with soap (bile) and cold water. Only with hot water will the fat emulsify and the hands become nicely clean.

paneer making revisted

First of all, devotees often call paneer "curd", but so many Indians refer to yogurt as "curd", so just a little note about that, in case there is confusion.

Here is just some quicker technique. More info is online or at a previous posting:

JUST WHEN STARTING TO BOIL, CURDLE THE MILK. Use lemon juice and or yogurt whey or a little citric acid. Experiment for what amounts are needed. The whey should not be milky looking. It should be rather clear and yellow to greenish (forgive the blurry photos)


Now last post I said pour the curds and whey through a sieve as the next step. That’s fine and good, but sometimes I simply pour the milk curds into a medium fine sieve, without a cheesecloth.


Next, place a cheesecloth on top of a thick folded towel. Then the milk curds on top of the cheese cloth soon after straining somewhat in the fine sieve. Cover and press with a weight, such as a pot of water.

Using a cheesecloth after straining can be useful because sometimes diy cheesecloths at home (in this case, plain cotton cloth) often slow the initial draining process.

Usually the milk curd will completely come out of the sieve very easily by turning it upside down and giving it a rub it with your fingers under tap water to remove very easily. Better yet is using one of those little sprayer hoses connected to the kitchen sink. Simultaneously, place the now empty cooking pot underneath the running tap to catch the water to use as the weight on top of the milk curds. More photos are at the previous post.

Later note: I’ve reverted back to lining my sieve with the cheesecloth after all, to save water, then pressing the wrapped paneer with a heavy mortar or cast iron skillet on top of a cutting board (instead of using a pot of water).Just make sure to have a well draining cotton fabric cloth. I personally never buy or use the “cheesecloth” sold in stores because I have a hard time cleaning it. 

Unpressed milk curd pictured second to the bottom is called chenna. It's good for something like scrambled paneer. If you do press for paneer, just press a minute for softer paneer. If you press longer, you can still add it during cooking to soften it up. Or grate it.

Paneer is super tasty when cooked a little in ghee first, whether immediately in a chaunce before adding to a subji or using a cast iron skillet separately for easier browning.

Again, more information may be found here: Paneer or Fresh Cheese Making