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Sunday, March 28, 2010

My Brief Against Feminism

The question about whether women should become initiating spiritual masters or not has been raised. Some speculate about what to call her-- "Maharani", instead of "Maharaja"? "Jaya Guru devi", instead of "Jaya Gurudeva"? Hearing all this, I am thinking, "Why change anything? Didn't Srila Prabhupada say not to introduce anything 'new'? Prabhupada didn't make women sannyasis while on the planet, so why should he favor female diksha guruship?"

PRABHUPADA MADE DISTINCTIONS
Some female Prabhupada disciples argue that he did not discriminate what kind of services they could render as women. On the contrary, Prabhupada did make distinctions, as evidenced by his letters. An example is Yamuna devi. She was doing huge preaching work, but after leaving her husband, Prabhupada wrote to her the following instruction: "It is better that you don't make a large program. Remain a humble program. In bhakti there is no grotesque program. A humble program is better. We are doing all these grotesque programs to allure the masses. My Guru Maharaja used to say that no one hears from a person coming from a humble, simple life. You remain always very humble....Women when not with husband must live very very humbly and simple life." --letter to Yamuna and Dinatarine 1/13/76, Calcutta

Their main argument, it seems, for women becoming gurus has been to "increase the preaching", but the above letter states that it is not a woman's business to allure the masses on a grand scale. Bhakti is not dependent upon such things.  As for the preaching, what sort of people will it attract? How will it affect our society? For unmarried women, therefore, Prabhupada desired that they take the humble position.

CREATING HARDSHIP FOR OTHERS
Even if a senior woman is able to perform the duties of guru-ship very nicely, she should be the rare, self-effulgent exception rather than the norm. Bg 3.35 warns the rest of us, "To do another's duty, even though perfectly, is dangerous." Why is it dangerous? First of all, it sends the wrong message to others. Women's real duties will be neglected or set aside as something insignificant. This in turn creates a social imbalance and hardship for others, which we can already witness practically.

I can relate some sad stories about devotee children (a few were written about in an earlier post) having spent a lot of time with them, including listening to them. In other words, if the Hare Krishna movement wants to avoid suffering from another gurukuli lawsuit, Vedic womanhood (Bg 1.40p) ought to be promoted instead of female guruship.We sometimes hear talk about how the men in our movement are not qualified to lead women, but it is a woman's hand that rocks the cradle (Well, since they don't want to do that anymore, God only knows who ended up rocking it). We hear so much complaint about exploitation of women, but what about the unspoken abuses towards men--who are not known to complain loudly like a woman does--and their children when families are neglected by their wives and mothers? We hear nowadays, over and over again, "A Vaisnava can do anything"- but a child's mother is irreplaceable.

In this regard, writer and ex-lawyer Carolyn Graglia makes a monumental case in her book "Domestic Tranquility, A Brief Against Feminism" , demonstrating with hundreds of pages of evidence how feminism was a big factor in creating the child-hating, sexually perverse culture we live in today. Not only that, but when the majority of women feel compelled to be out working a job, those who do choose to stay home find that there is not a female neighbor in sight! Not so long ago it was the other way around; generally mothers, grandmothers and housewives could be found in every home, supporting one another and sharing a common interest in what was once considered human society's most sacred duties.It's something my mother and grandmother experienced, but is foreign to the present generation. Now any woman that dares to remain at home often feels frustrated, unrecognized, derided and alone. To learn how to care for her child or get along with her husband she has to read a book. All this gives further evidence of the sort of social imbalance, hardship and untold heartache that feminism creates for others. Nor are the working women any happier, "Despite the increased opportunities we have in society, to hold jobs, earn equal wages, we are becoming less satisfied. It is possible that these opportunities have become more of a burden. Not only can women do more, but maybe our standards have increased so that we expect women to do more." (excerpt from Superwoman- Can We Do It All?)

HIDDEN MISOGYNY
Meanwhile, while thousands of women from other faiths are waking up from the madness, back in ISKCON several male leaders have been falsely accused of "conspiracy" against women or they've been offensively labeled as "misogynists", because they support Prabhupada's teachings about a woman's position according to varnasrama dharma. More amazingly, Srila Prabhupada himself has become an object of ridicule by certain women as well as their male supporters who consider it their duty to correct the founder acarya on these matters, assuming that he didn't know what he was talking about, was "old-fashioned", etc.

Lately, there has been another controversy sparked in which I was told directly that "being addressed as 'Mataji' is demeaning to women." Translation? "Your position as a mother is worthless." To give an example of how wide spread this sort of thinking has become, Doris Stump, Swiss member of the Parliamentary Assembly of the Council of Europe wrote:

"Women are often represented in the media in roles traditionally assigned by society, portrayed as passive and lesser beings, mothers or sexual objects. These sexist stereotypes in the media perpetuate a simplistic, immutable and caricatured image of women and men, legitimising everyday sexism and discriminatory practices and establishing a barrier to gender equality." (For more quotes from the founders of modern feminism themselves, scroll towards the bottom of this article.)

Yet, when women are taught to covet the positions designated for men, such actions devalue the duties of traditional womanhood. In other words, by neglecting the things that make us women, one realizes that in reality, feminism is anything but feminine.

Due to the above considerations, therefore, one may wonder, who are the real woman-haters? If fingers must be pointed, how about pointing them at those people who mistakenly follow the teachings of feminism? Whether consciously or unconsciously, they look down upon the duties I have performed most of  my life as a wife and mother. They look down upon anything that has to do with being a woman, hoping to create a genderless, utopian and ultimately impersonal society where everybody is equal in all respects or united as "all one".
Now, it is understandable when an elderly woman who has never experienced the joy of caring for a child may feel uncomfortable or unhappy to be called a mother, but why decry something that is cherished by most women and instructed by Srila Prabhupada for his male followers? In rural India, "Mataji" is a title of honor since mothers are revered enough that when they grow old, they don't have to rely on nursing homes or even to burden ISKCON to provide shelter or "family" in their old age. Their children remember the sacrifices made for their well-being when they were growing up, so of course they are cared for in return.

SOMETHING WE HAVE YET TO WITNESS IN ISKCON- VEDIC WOMANHOOD
In the Woman's GBC Resolutions conference, Radha devi dasi was quoted: "Most women in ISKCON are engaged in traditional roles. We are mothers, wives, cooks, housekeepers and caretakers. We cook, we clean, we care for the children and the men in our Society, as well as caring for each other. But these tasks are not the whole of our abilities or of the contribution we have to make to Srila Prabhupada's movement."

"Most women in ISKCON?" "Traditional roles?" "Take care of our men?" Sorry, but I have no experience of what she is talking about. For the last thirty plus years of living in or near ISKCON temples, most the women I've known were either divorced, renunciates, single or childless, and if they did have any children or husband, they were usually required to perform various services outside the home or to work a job and were either too busy or too worn out to devote much time for them. That's because household life was/is regarded as maya.  When I told the women in my asrama I was getting married, for example, they immediately found ways to let me know I was no longer welcome. The pressure was/is always there that the less involved you are at home the better.

Shouldn't it be the other way around? Isn't it one's consciousness that counts, one's service mood, not what big important service one is rendering outside her home? So, it is a matter of providing proper association and education. One woman believed that unless she was allowed to take sannyasa, she couldn 't go back to Godhead! Surely correct understanding is needed.

So, we are begging our ISKCON leaders, please protect us family women and our daughters by providing proper examples. We are tired of being marginalized by feminism. Most of us don't want equal rights with men nor to give up our shyness to take on men's roles; we want to become servants of the servant. We need facilities for women who wish to follow their own dharma. We are tired of ISKCON'S hippie era. We need women leaders who are in tune with our actual needs and can inspire us practically.  Then we can counteract the feminist propaganda against women's duties and womanhood in general and cultivate a class of ladies dedicated to their husbands and family life for the pleasure of guru and Krishna. In the western countries especially, most women are simply ignorant of their power to make or break their homes. We are taught to blame it all on the men, that women have some sort of impunity for the mess the world is in today.

Yet, a healthy marriage relationship is vital to happy family life, so if we want to "increase the preaching" , happy family life speaks volumes and is the foundation of any sane society. It is something that is sorely lacking in ISKCON at present, because not just men should be reminded to treat women with respect, but especially women need to be instructed how to get along with men. Prabhupada's advice about male psychology given in his books is a good place to start.

Besides, it is much easier to command respect rather than to demand it.

In closing, Bhagavad-gita points out that Arjuna also considered giving up his duty, thinking it ineffective or looked down upon in society, but Krishna counteracted (Bg 3.24) that if He, Krishna, did not perform His duty, He'd be the cause of world ruination, because what persons in positions of authority perform, others will follow. This is why the feminist ideals are so harmful to a society. This is why women must seek GBC approval for diksha guruship. Thomas Jefferson sagaciously remarked: "It is error that needs the support of the government; truth can stand by itself." In contrast, Krishna exemplified King Janaka, who attained perfection solely by performance of his prescribed duties and how, although he was a self-realized soul, he continually performed his duties just for the sake of setting the proper example.

QUESTIONS:
Regarding the diksha women issue, what's the difference if someone wants to take formal initiation from a female devotee since he has been getting shiksha from her all this time?

Exactly. Why not keep things the way they are! You said it your self that women as shiksha is just as good as being diksha.

Isn't it unfair to bar a woman from becoming diksha?

Don't try to turn the issue into sexism; that is not the issue. The issues is that the Bhagavad gita teaches us, "Do not give up your prescribed duties" for the reasons described above.

But what if there are disciples begging the woman for initiation?

We are duty bound to guide new devotees properly, and according to the Vaisnava etiquette of mayarda pratikrama, we should advise them to take shelter of the qualified devotees who have seniority over us, following in the footsteps of Uddhave who advised Vidura in this way. "One should be very careful of transgressing the law of maryädä-vyatikrama because by so doing one loses his duration of life, his opulence, fame and piety and the blessings of all the world. To be well versed in the transcendental science necessitates awareness of the techniques of spiritual science." -SB 3.4.26p

LET THE FEMINISTS SPEAK
The following sample of quotes from the founders and supporters of "second wave" feminism, aren't just about the encyclopedia's definition of women having the "right to work, equal pay and voting privileges". Nope. It's something (unsurprising to me) much more sinister :
""We can't destroy the inequities between men and women until we destroy marriage. " Robin Morgan, from Sisterhood Is Powerful

"'The nuclear family must be destroyed, and people must find better ways of living together...Whatever its ultimate meaning, the break—up of families now is an objectively revolutionary process." - Linda Gordon, Women: A Journal of Liberation, 1969

"'We have to abolish and reform the institution of marriage...By the year 2000 we will, I hope, raise our children to believe in human potential, not God...We must understand what we are attempting is a revolution, not a public relations movement." -Gloria Steinam, feminist leader and editor of Ms Magazine

""God is going to change. We women... will change the world so much that He won't fit anymore." Naomi Goldenberg, Changing of the Gods: Feminism and the End of Traditional Religions

"Abortion is a necessity for millions of women worldwide, for their health, for their well being, for their dreams of a better tomorrow." -The Feminist Majority Foundation, Feminist.org

"You can't call yourself a feminist if you don't believe in the right to abortion." — Gloria Steinam

"'Being a housewife is an illegitimate profession... The choice to serve and be protected and plan towards being a family—maker is a choice that shouldn't be. The heart of radical feminism is to change that." - Vivian Gornick, 1981

"The simple fact is, every woman must be willing to be recognized as a lesbian to be fully feminine" - NOW/ The National Organization for Women, 1988

"We've begun to raise daughters more like sons...but few have the courage to raise our sons more like our daughters." - Gloria Steinam

For further information, You Don't Know Feminism and  Feminist Fantasies is suggested.

Feminist history answers a lot of questions for me like why I hardly knew my mother (after 1969), why public school was my authority on life, why abortion is considered acceptable, why atheism is on the rise, why women are pressured to work outside the domestic realm,  why the media is trying to convert men into thinking and acting like women, why teacher's guides refer to the student as a "she" and no longer a "he", why there's so much divorce, why illicit sex is so rampant, why ISKCON varnasrama society remains a dream described in Prabhupada's books and much, much, much more.

SIMILAR POSTS
Return of the Mothers
A response to a comment about the above article
Sexual Liberation or Sexual Repression?
How these two things get confused
Patriarchy or Matriarchy or Anarchy?
"Anarchist feminists know what other radicals often have to learn from bitter experience."
Curing the Superwoman Syndrome
Availability may be a family woman's greatest service
Preparing Our Daughters
Protection from advocates of feminism
Knowledge of Duty- For the Children's Sake 
Why, in the west, we hate our mothers
"I Was a Guru Groupie"
The power of association
"Prabhu" advocates like being called "Vaishnavi"
A Politically Correct Excerpt from Krishna Book
Krishna's surrender unto His prabhu, Yasoda
observations of historian E. Burke Rochford
observations of historian E. Burke Rochford
ADDENDUM 5/26/2013
FEMINISM IN ISKCON DOCUMENTED:
Excerpt from Hare Krishna Transformed by E. Burke Rochford

And what is this book's shocking conclusion?
"The politics surrounding women's place in ISKCON clearly point to the ways that the Krishna movement has edged ever closer to American mainstream culture... Although inequalities continue to exist, as they also do in mainstream societies, ISKCON’s organizational policy now fully endorses equal and full opportunities for men and women devotees alike. Such a cultural turn is significant because it signals the ways in which traditionalism no longer serves as the foundation of ISKCON’s religious culture. In embracing gender equality, ISKCON’s leaders aligned the organization with a defining feature of modern liberal culture (Chaves 1997:51).

"The conflict over gender equality...opened a Pandora’s box that may forever remain open. The debate about women’s roles and place in ISKCON led to CRITICAL QUESTIONING OF PRABHUPADA'S SCRIPTURAL COMMENTARIES, AS WELL AS HIS OVERALL AUTHORITY as Krishna’s pure representative. The fact that the leadership failed to act decisively on Prabhupada’s behalf  WAS AN ACKNOWLEDGEMENT that his authority no longer was absolute...

"Yet as these teachings become reframed as guides for thought and action, in place of being 'absolute truths,' traditionalism will continue its march to the margins of ISKCON. As it does, the goal of creating a viable cultural alternative to mainstream American culture will cease to exist,”

Friday, March 26, 2010

Spinach Raita



Raitas come in many forms. Here's another favorite:

INGREDIENTS:
1 lb fresh spinach, stems partially removed
1 t ground roasted cumin seeds
1/4 t ground roasted kalonji seeds OR 1/2 t garam masala
1/4 t ground black pepper
2 c plain yogurt
salt, as desired

PREPARATION:
1. Plunge spinach leaves into boiling water and then drain well, cool and chop well.

2. Add the remaining ingredients to the yogurt. Add the chopped spinach and mix well.

Kichari

Updated 12/2018:
Vegetables and spices chosen for this prep can vary. The use of spices can vary according to season, state of health and taste. Cooking methods also vary from time to time. Here's one way:


(serves 3-4)
INGREDIENTS:
1/2 c basmati rice
1/4 c whole mung beans, sorted and washed
1 cups chopped vegies- carrot, cauliflower, bhok choy...steamed and chopped taro are some favorites
2-3 T ghee
1/2 t ginger root
1/2 t mustard seeds (opt)
1/2 t cumin seeds
1/2 t ground roasted cumin
1/ t ground roasted coriander
a pinch of hing
1/2 t turmeric
fresh coriander leaves, chopped
water
About 1 1/4 t salt

PREPARATION:
1. Begin boiling the mung in water with the veggies. The rice can be boiled in another pot of water 15 minutes and then drained. Or stir it into the mung and vegies when the mung is softening and veggies cooked. Cook another 20 minutes until rice is done
2. Heat the ghee until hot. Add the mustard seeds.When they finish popping, add the cumin seeds and ginger and remaining spices. Stir a few seconds in the hot ghee to bring out the flavor, then pour into the finished kichari. Add more water until desired consistency.
3.Garnish with fresh coriander before offering with a slice of lemon and perhaps a buttery chapati or two.

VARIATIONS: Use 1/2 t fennel seeds instead of ground coriander

Coriander Chutney



Ingredients:
6 oz. of fresh coriander leaves (weighed without stems)
4 T grated fresh coconut
2 T grated fresh ginger root
1- 2 fresh chillies, chopped
2 T lemon juice (opt.)
8 oz. plain yogurt
1 t sugar
1 t salt
1/2 t roasted and ground cumin seeds

PREPARATION:
1. Wash and chopped coriander finely.

2. Blend all the above ingredients together until well blended. Offer to Krishna with pakoras, tikkis, dosa, etc.



Keeps well up to one week in a sealed refrigerated container.

Milk Crate Composting

We take so much from Mother Earth. Composting is a way to give back to the earth. Here's the method I devised over time for composting my kitchen scraps. I collected several abandoned milk crates. They also come in larger sizes as pictured in the second picture below.





In the kitchen I keep a bucket with a lid. There I put in it all fruit and vegetable waste such as various peels, stems, rinds, etc., collected over a few days. More info on what to add and not add can be found on the web. For example, I do not put greasy cooked leftovers in because it takes longer to decompose and is more likely to attract unwanted pests. Another tip is to to cut larger scraps into smaller pieces. This also speeds up decomposition.

Besides kitchen scraps, one can recycle many other things such as shredded cardboard and paper bags (without ink) or lint from the dryer. Some things can be burned and ashes added to the pile.

After my kitchen bucket is full, I pour it out into one of the milk crates I keep in my back yard. Over these I add a layer of soil (the microorganisms inside do most the work of decomposing) and then a layer of leaves. If possible, chop or crumble the leaves before adding. Also look for local worm castings to add, but it may not be long until worms find their way to the pile and do the work for you. If not, you may find them in various places such as under rocks. Just carefully pick them up and add them to your pile.

This process is repeated each time I have another bucket of scraps and until the crate is full. Then I move on to another crate. After awhile, the items in the first crates will shrink, so more layers of material may be added. Just try to keep in order which you did first or which crates are the oldest. It's easy to tell by looking at them.

When you run out of crates to use, simply go to the first couple of them and empty them into a pile in an area that gets a reasonable amount of sun. The sun aids decomposition, but you don't want the piles to get overly dry either. If that happens, simply add water.

Now and then, turn the pile on the ground with a pitchfork or whatever implement is available. You should see steam come out on a cool morning (or the fact that the pile is shrinking, rapidly). This is a very good sign that the pile is "cooking" properly. Continue to turn the pile from time to time. Another sign of good composting is there is no bad smell. It should have an earthy smell that no nature lover can resist. Plus you may see seeds sprouting out of your pile. I've had both cantaloupes as well as avocado seeds sprout forth in different piles, the former producing whole fruits. (Later note: One year I tossed several rotten tomatoes and had a large quantity of tomato plants growing which I transplanted and they produced a good amount of fruit!)

When the pile gets large enough, make another one nearby. Do not empty any more crates into the first. You want it to completely decompose or turn into useable compost. Compost that is not decomposed properly can "burn" plants by the heating property is possesses described above, unless you are strictly using it as a soil amendment and not for plant food.

Good soil can be created by adding plenty of finished compost over time, and many problems with the soils balance will gradually become corrected. There is a saying, "The first year your garden sleeps, the second it creeps, the third it leaps." That's because of increasingly healthy soil.

Feed plants with a layer of finished compost. Watering will allow nutrients to wash down into the soil beneath.

Have fun and remember to, "Compost- because a rind is a terrible thing to waste!"

UPDATE ON 3/2014: We moved to the country, and I no longer have my little milk crates. I graduated  to nailing together four wooden pallets. The resultant compost container is roomy, airy and easily moveable whenever I need to start a new pile!

UPDATE ON 11/2020 Save for two large ones still standing for larger scale composting, I no longer bother with wooden pallets that fall apart. I just make piles! I also bury scraps directly in the soil. I prefer smaller piles that degrade quicker and are easier to turn and often become the next bed to be planted in. Also we are blessed to live near bulls and cows so the dung is thrown in, especially the big piles, to heat things up to degrade faster.
To keep the forest animals out of a fresh pile, I simply cover it for a few nights with boards, sticks, whatever is available.

Broccoli Subji


Fortunate for me, all my kids became vegetable lovers at an early age. Even the broccoli reportedly dreaded by many children today, was eaten up with no fuss.

Here's one way to prepare it using the "char char" method, which means high heat until the vegetable just begins to brown in the frying pan. The browning in ghee is what gives the broccoli an especially nice flavor.

INGREDIENTS:
2 heads of broccoli, peeled and chopped, including the stems
3-4 T ghee
1 T fresh ginger, grated
1/8 t hing (asafoetida)
1 t coriander powder
1/4 t ground black pepper
1 t turmeric
water
salt

PREPARATION:
  1. Preferably using a heavy bottomed frying pan, heat the ghee on high and when hot, chaunce in the ghee the ginger until brown and crispy. Then add hing, coriander, pepper and turmeric. 
  2. Immediately add the chopped broccoli. Stir around in the spices a couple minutes..
  3. Add water to almost cover the broccoli. Put a lid on and keep cooking on high heat. Cook until all the water is evaporated and the broccoli begins to brown at the bottom of the pan. Broccoli should be cooked but not mushy..
  4. Add salt, as desired.
Offer to Krishna withs parathas and a slice of lemon

Banana Raita



INGREDIENTS:
4 ripe but not bruised bananas, sliced
2 c yogurt
2 T ghee
2 t black mustard seeds
1 fresh green chili, seeded and chopped
1/4 t ground black pepper (optional)
1/2-1 t turbinado sugar
fresh chopped mint leaves or coriander leaves
salt as desired

PREPARATION:
1. Chaunce in the ghee the mustard seeds and chili until the mustard seeds are popped and chili browned. Pour into the yogurt.

2. Next add the black pepper, sugar and salt, and fresh herb.

3. Fold in the sliced bananas.

Mango Dream

Lord Nrsinghadeva loves mangoes and also cooling foods. By His mercy I was inspired to create the following offering for his pleasure:

It was made with the shrikand recipe with double the usual yogurt and sweetener along with chopped mangoes. I had no electric for the entire day, so I just hung the shrikand out of the fridge for a change. I feared it'd be extra sour, so I added a bit more sugar. It turned out fine with no noticeable extra sour taste. I am now hanging shrikand outside my fridge to save room, but not hanging as long as usual. Also I help it out now and then with a gentle squeeze to speed it along.

Also I drained the mangos a bit before adding to keep the shrikand firm. Finally, I set the bowl of mango and shrikand mixture on a tray of icecubes I still had that were thawing in the fridge. This also kept the mixture firm and kept it cool before serving to Krishna. An easier method would be to set it in a freezer about 20 minutes before serving.

Cranberry Cake with Golden Sauce


This is late in posting, but here's a good recipe for cranberry season, originally from a Betty Crocker cookbook.

CRANBERRY CAKE
2 c flour
1 1/4 c turbinado sugar
1 c milk
2 T ghee
2 t baking powder
1 t non alcohol vanilla
1/2 t salt
2 heaping T yogurt
2 c fresh cranberries, all stems removed

1. If using whole wheat flour, mix the dry ingredients together and whisk in the ghee( If using white flour or a combination of white and whole wheat, mix the sugar and ghee together first, then add the other wet ingredients. Then add this to the dry ingredients).
2. In a separate bowl, mix the yogurt, vanilla and milk together, then stir all into the dry ingredients.
3. Fold in the cranberries.
4. Pour into a greased baking tray half full. Bake at 350 degrees for about 40-50 min or until done (lightly browned on top and edges and center is rather firm).
Allow the cake to cool. Cut it into slices and pour on generously the following:

THE GOLDEN SAUCE:
1/2 c sugar
1/2 c half & half
1/2 c butter
1/2 t vanilla
Combine all ingredients and heat just until the butter has melted.



There may initially appear to be more sauce than cake, but the cake will slowly absorb it all. Keep adding until its all poured on.

Thursday, March 25, 2010

Strawberry Lassi

INGREDIENTS
4 c thick yogurt
2 c water
3/4 c sugar
1 carton strawberries, washed, stemmed and blended

PREPARATION:
  1. Boil sugar and blended strawberries together until the sugar dissolves. Cool in a pan full of cold water.
  2. Add the yogurt and water  Mix or blend well before offering.