We all know that sometimes marriage can be hard. But even harder in this day and age can be parenting. A prime example would be the traditional Indian mother. For starters, just take a look online to see how obsessed and anxious an Indian Mom can be portrayed! One example presents a humorous, exaggeration:
Indian Mom is a family woman through and through. Their children are their life. Yet, some Indian Mom’s are so protective to the point of hysteria. And it isn’t just western society that puts them down as controlling, but their westernized kids do it, too.
Sure, it isn’t healthy to be too obsessed, but there must be a reason for it. And how many people, Indian offspring included, take the trouble to understand why Indian mothers are so concerned about their children?
An answer is found in the study of history as presented in Srila Prabhupada’s books, especially the history of the family unit. History shows how family used to mean extended family and how that was and still is to this very day being destroyed by automobiles; industrial society; irreverent, atheistic education; less than sudra government, etc. Families are torn apart and those who still care about family rather than this western preaching of mayavada, “individuality” and “me first “ culture, they are ridiculed. They are assaulted as control freaks, so that they’ll back down and conform to the modern pandemonium of nuclear family or -more and more- no family.
An answer is found in the study of history as presented in Srila Prabhupada’s books, especially the history of the family unit. History shows how family used to mean extended family and how that was and still is to this very day being destroyed by automobiles; industrial society; irreverent, atheistic education; less than sudra government, etc. Families are torn apart and those who still care about family rather than this western preaching of mayavada, “individuality” and “me first “ culture, they are ridiculed. They are assaulted as control freaks, so that they’ll back down and conform to the modern pandemonium of nuclear family or -more and more- no family.
Kali is destroying family, so we need to be distributing Srila Prabhupada’s books. This will have a medicinal effect and Indian Moms will become peaceful and happy.
Indian Mom’s sons sometimes get poked fun at, too, as “Mama boys, which in America is supposed to be an insult (but really isn't), since Mom is apparently not such a significant person anymore.
On this note, one interesting reality show (I think it's called 90 Day Fiance), was about a man name Colt Johnson, an American who actually supported his aging mother, but he was ridiculed for that. His so-called "fiance", on the other hand, who was practically a prostitute and obviously there just for her green card, had dozens of supporters. Anyway, it was shocking to think that those people who ridiculed the way the son took care of his mother are the ones who won't have any problem sending their mothers to an old folks home at the end of life (not surprising, on the other hand, for western women with a self absorbed legacy.)
In other words, it isn’t just chaste wives who are disdained in Kali Yuga, but also devoted mothers. And research shows that Indian Moms rank high in this regard. And those Indian sons labeled “co-dependent”, etc., because they marry whom their parents choose, work alongside their family business or get educated according to parents wishes are actually the most fortunate because they still respect their elders. It’s because they still have culture (and backbone, if they can withstand the ridicule).
In America there is no common culture. They proudly call it “the melting pot” . Here “anything goes” or “do what you want”... And the frustrated youth become hippies or turn to drugs and illicit sex, and you notice they are just miserable, especially looking at the aging, unmarried girls' faces.
At least in the cities this is often true. In rural America, on the other hand, there are still are many, many conservative Americans who are as afraid and desperate like Indian Mom. They don’t like the destruction of family, either. They will appreciate Srila Prabhupada’s books straight, especially Srimad Bhagavatam, versus the ISKCON media that shows girls and boys mingling and wearing immodest clothing and hairstyles that gives conservative people the idea that "This is New Age" or "Bollywood stuff".
At least in the cities this is often true. In rural America, on the other hand, there are still are many, many conservative Americans who are as afraid and desperate like Indian Mom. They don’t like the destruction of family, either. They will appreciate Srila Prabhupada’s books straight, especially Srimad Bhagavatam, versus the ISKCON media that shows girls and boys mingling and wearing immodest clothing and hairstyles that gives conservative people the idea that "This is New Age" or "Bollywood stuff".
According to the Srimad Bhagavatam Indian Mom is admirable because even though it looks like she’s fighting a losing battle against western culture and therefore she may come off to some as pretty harsh and disrespectful at times, in reality she is one of the last real mothers on the planet. Indian Moms give their life and soul for their family. Their example should be a lasting impression on all of us.
More fun with good ol', old school Indian Mom: